A load to clear

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

For my own peace of mind, I need to get this off my chest. I don’t care if others think I’m being rude and rebellious.

No matter how God wants to make us good people, there are some sick-os who like to make things difficult for others and create trouble out of nothing. I have encountered such a beast man who picks on his victims whenever he feels that life is too peaceful for the victims. Unfortunately for me, I am also one of his many victims.

In the beginning, I endured his bullying and kept quiet whenever he was nasty to me. I even pitied him and consoled myself that he’s behaving so badly because he doesn’t get any warmth and love at home. But his constant bullying was too much for me and I concluded that even love can’t cure this man of his sickness. I decided enough is enough.

I no longer stand silent and let him abuse me with his sharp tongue. Whenever he comes near me, my defences are up no matter what comes out from his mouth. I have learned to treat him the way he treats others, returning his sarcasm, glaring back at him and my tone contain absolutely no friendliness. If a smile were offered to him, it is a cynical one that translates to saying “I don’t give a damn what you say”.

Arguing to defend myself against his accusations don’t work even if I’m 200% correct. Doing that only frustrates me even more and he seems to find satisfaction in driving me up the wall. The more you clarify, the more accusations he throws at you. It doesn’t matter that each accusation doesn’t relate to his original point. And if you think that you’ve won justifying yourself when you see him walk off, you’d be dead wrong. When he senses that he’s losing his own battle, he marches up to your boss and starts the whole accusation episode of your “crimes”. So now you’ve gotta defend yourself all over again to your boss and he’s just standing there, mocking you.

A well-meaning colleague advised that in order to soften him and lessen the abuses, I should be nice and pull a girlie-stunt (i.e. to act manja) on him. That is something I cannot do. Absolutely not! Not only will I be a hypocrite to myself, but I have too much pride to treat him like a king. Good thing is that since I stood up to his bullying ways, he’s lessened his abuses on me.

In the end, does he get what he wants? Sadly, yes. He derives satisfaction from your misery and even if you manage to get an “acquittal” of your so called “crimes” in his eyes, he’s probably laughing inside to have put you through all that stress.

I’ve never met a man as unbelievably nasty as him. Well, maybe I’ve not met all the world’s people. But at this moment, he rates No. 1 on my Evil Chart. Being born in the year of the Snake, I’m a vindictive person so I pray to God that he knows his limits with me before his nice car loses all 4 tyres!

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

i say go for tyres mate ! What a %#@*ing idiot and too much time is this world. Stand ur ground and fight back to this sick ass. Don't give an inch for this low life shit.

Olive Poppy said...

Aww I'm so sorry, hun. There're always oxymorons like that around. I think you should give him a piece of your mind too. Show him what a girl's made of!

Nick said...

Actually the nastiest revenge that you can take is this:

1) get his mobile contact number, office DID/extension, office email address
2) get his home contact number & address (yellow pages) and personal email address

Publish these on gay forums, and say he's a gay looking for gay partners, or gigolo is available.

He'll have hell of a time answering to calls from strangers all over the world ;)

Eternity said...

leonard, i like the colourful words and symbols. hehe. :P i'll continue to stand up to him!

princess poo poo, you're right! we girls need to show we're not a bunch of pushovers.

nick, it's an excellent suggestion! easy enough to execute and has a longer lasting effect! way easier than me uninstalling the tyres!

Anonymous said...

oh..there are many ways to chop down a tree. sometimes a chainsaw might not be ideal. just a few chip here and there : )

Eternity said...

leonard, yes yes, throw me more ideas ;)